Dans Papers - May 18, 2007

Nowadays, business etiquette is often extended out of the office and into restaurants. Many important meetings with colleagues, potential clients and future bosses have been conducted over breakfast, lunch and dinner. The "power lunch" is a staple in today's business culture and should be treated with the same significance as a meeting in the boardroom. With that being said, it is key to understand the importance of mixing a meal with good manners, social graces and formal business etiquette. The following are tips on how to develop new business relationships, strengthen existing ones or land that new job or promotion, all while enjoying a good meal.

However obvious it may seem, the first piece of advice is basic, yet so important and is often ignored or forgotten - don't be late! Always arrive at least ten minutes before the reservation time. Being tardy to a business meeting is considered offensive and unprofessional. If you are hosting the lunch meeting, make it clear to the guest (or guests) that you will be paying for their meal. Suggest several restaurants and let your guest choose the location. If possible, inform the server that you will be paying before the guest arrives. This way, the bill comes directly to you when you're finished. When your dining companion arrives, greet him or her with a firm handshake and let them be seated first.

It is important to familiarize yourself with a standard table setting. Typically, beverages, soupspoons and knives are on the right while forks and bread plates are on the left. When it comes to utensils, a general rule of thumb is to start from the outside and work your way in. If your business meal is set at a fancy establishment, brush up on the proper uses of cutlery they might provide, such as fish knives, lobster forks and finger bowls.

When ordering, keep in mind that the purpose of the meal is business and not necessarily enjoyment of the food. No matter what your cravings might be, avoid messy dishes, especially anything that requires you to eat with your hands or is dripping in sauce. It is safe to stick with something that can be easily cut with a knife and fork. Most importantly, order a meal that will allow you to carry on a conversation. Other suggestions for ordering include the following - never order something you can't pronounce, never order the most expensive item the a menu if you're not paying, follow the lead of your host when it comes to ordering appetizers and desserts, avoid foods that trigger indigestion or heartburn and while it is considered good manners to offer your guest a drink at dinner, never make them feel uncomfortable for refusing.

It is crucial to give your dining companion your full attention throughout the meal. Do not leave the table unless absolutely necessary and always turn off your cell phone. There is never an excuse to be rude to the wait staff, especially during a business meal. If you treat the staff poorly, it will reflect on how you might treat your co-workers. Also, it is a good idea to wait until the meal is finished before initiating serious talk about any business at hand. Start with small talk and remember that most people love to talk about themselves, so ask questions that aren't too personal and be sure to actively listen to each response. If a mishap occurs - dropping a fork, spilling a drink - remain calm, smile and don't be discouraged. Your ability to continue the meeting as planned will reflect well on your character.

When dining companion has finished their meal and placed his or her napkin on the table, do the same and don't ask for a doggy bag. Never forget to thank the host for the meal. If you smoke, refrain from doing so at the end of a meal, unless following the lead of your host.

Business meals continue to grow in popularity and are a great way to conduct a successful meeting while dining in style.